In a previous blog post titled The Real Meaning of True Love, I mentioned 3 factors that must be present for true love to exist. If you didn’t have a chance to read it yet, you can do so here. Just to summarize, those 3 factors are:
- Connection on all levels (physical, emotional, and spiritual)
- You both “get” each other
- You’re always there for each other, no matter what
No matter how wonderful a relationship may seem at the very beginning, there’s no guarantee that things will still be wonderful several weeks or months later. After all, how many times have you met someone who seemed great at first, but then after dating him for a few months, you realized he was the wrong guy for you?
I’m not trying to be cynical or discouraging here. The point I’m trying to make is that true love takes time to develop; it doesn’t just happen the moment you first meet someone.
It takes time to know whether you and your partner will actually form a deep, lasting connection on all levels. Just because you relate to each other well in the beginning doesn’t mean you’ll continue to do so in the future.
It takes time to determine whether you both share the same core values and relationship goals, and that your lives are headed in the same direction.
And lastly, it’s impossible to know right from the get-go whether the man you’re dating is going to be there for you when times get tough. As you continue to date him, you’ll get to see how he responds to stressful situations and challenges that will inevitably happen along the way. Only then will you know if he’s truly in it for the long haul.
In the best of relationships, love evolves naturally and grows stronger over time. It is not something to be rushed into.
So the next time you meet someone, always remember this: TRUE LOVE HAPPENS OVER TIME, NOT AT FIRST SIGHT.
Now I want to hear from you. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not? Post a comment below and let me know what you think.