I was absolutely ecstatic when I saw the townhouse listing. The photos of it were gorgeous. The location was ideal. It even had a pool! I immediately contacted my real estate agent who scheduled a showing for the next day. I figured it would be a shoe-in…I’d see it, love it, put an offer down, buy it, and then my house search would be over!
Well, things didn’t turn out quite the way I had planned! When I saw the townhouse in person, I noticed it was located right behind the local YMCA. All around me was the sound of kids yelling and screaming in the YMCA’s pool and playing field. So much for the “peaceful, quiet townhouse community” that the listing had advertised!
When I went inside the townhouse, the first floor was nice, but the lower level was disappointing. There was supposed to be two walk-in closets down there so I hoping for lots of good storage space. But in reality, one of the closets turned out to be just a large pantry for storing food, while a heat pump occupied half of the second closet. So much for abundant storage space! And to make matters worse, you could hear the sound of the heat pump running in the bedroom next door.
Needless to say, I was soooo disappointed! But at the same time, I know that there are other houses out there and eventually I’ll find one that meets all my essential requirements. And so my real estate search continues!
Now, I’m sure you may be wondering why I’m telling you all this, especially when I’m supposed to be blogging about dating! The reason is because there are actually a lot of parallels between my house-hunting woes and your dating woes. Think about it for a moment: how many times have you gone out with guys who looked and sounded great on the surface, but once you got to know them, they turned out to be major disappointments? (Kind of similar to my townhouse experience, right)?
While these types of disappointments are inevitable in the dating world (as well as in the real estate world!), it’s how you RESPOND to them that makes all the difference. When a relationship doesn’t turn out quite the way you had hoped, you have 2 choices:
1. You can drown yourself in misery and give up on the male species altogether.
2. You can feel sad and disappointed for awhile (I’m a BIG believer in feeling your feelings, even the negative ones), but then move on from what happened and jump back into the dating scene once again.
It’s up to you to decide. The choice you make will largely influence the future trajectory of your love life. Choose Option 1 and you’ll likely end up being a lonely single woman for a very long time. But choose Option 2 and you'll likely find true love and happiness someday.
Although I’m definitely still upset about the whole townhouse incident, I REFUSE to just throw in the towel and give up. I intend to keep searching because I know that one day I’ll find a house that’s right for me. It may not happen tomorrow, in a month, or even in three months, but I know it will happen at some point the future. And until my dream house comes along, I’ll just go on living and enjoying life to the fullest. And that’s exactly what you should be too while you’re waiting for the man of your dreams to come along.
While you may not be able to control life’s many letdowns, what you can control over is how you react to them. Sometimes certain things in life just aren’t meant to be. It is my hope that if something in your life doesn’t turn out quite the way you had planned, you will find the courage and strength to keep moving forward and to never give up hope that bigger and better things are on the way!
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