Have you ever dated a guy who seemed great in the beginning – he liked you, you liked him, you both got along well and had a lot in common, not to mention great chemistry too. But then one day, he dropped a bombshell and said that even though he REALLY likes you, he’s just not ready to commit and get serious with you. And you’re just like, “What the hell?"
If this unfortunate situation ever happens to you, there are 3 things you need to do: BELIEVE HIM, SAY GOODBYE, and MOVE ON!
BELIEVE HIM
Take what he’s saying at face value. Don’t try to convince him to change his mind, or beg and plead for him to stay. That’ll only make you look desperate.
Because when a man says he doesn’t want to commit, he’s not going to commit, no matter how hard you might try to get him to feel otherwise. After all, if the tables were turned and YOU were the one who didn’t want to commit to him, I’m sure that no amount of convincing, begging, or pleading on his part would cause YOU to have a change of heart.
Also, don’t fool yourself into thinking that if you keep on dating him, having sex with him, and doing this or that for him, he’ll suddenly come to his senses and commit his heart and soul to you.
I’ve seen way too many women spend months and even years waiting for their boyfriends to commit, and you know what? It never happens! All they end up doing is wasting a lot of precious time in a relationship that goes nowhere. That’s why when a man tells you he doesn’t want to commit, please believe him!
Moreover, it’s important that you don’t make a man feel wrong for not wanting to commit to you. As tempting as it might be to lash out at him for feeling that way, it’ll only make things even worse. It’s not like after hearing your angry outburst, he’s going to just suddenly turn around and say “Oh honey, you’re absolutely right. We should get serious and have a future together.”
It would be nice if it worked that way, but unfortunately, it doesn’t! You see, he wants what he wants and you want what you want, and if the two of you both want completely different things from the relationship, then getting angry about it isn’t going to change a thing.
SAY GOODBYE
What you need to do instead is this: Simply look him in the eye, and then calmly but firmly tell him:
“You know John (or whatever your partner’s name is), I totally understand if you’re not looking for anything serious right now. But you see, I AM at a stage of my life where I am looking for something serious and long-term. Even though I really enjoy dating you, and it hurts me to say this, I think it would be best for us to just part company and go our own separate ways since we both apparently want completely different things from this relationship. That way, you can find someone who’s fine with dating you casually, and I can find someone who truly wants a long-term committed relationship. It’s been great knowing you and I wish you the best.”
MOVE ON
And with that, you say goodbye and move on. Once you bid him farewell, don’t reach out to him or try to get back together with him again. Make him realize that he can’t just have his cake and eat it. Because from now on, you’re not going to give him the privilege of dating you if he has no intention of committing to you.
Yes it might hurt to walk away. Yes, it might suck to be alone again. But you know what sucks even more is dating someone who will NEVER be able to give you the deep lasting love and commitment you desire.
What you must realize ladies, is that you’ll never get to have long-term committed relationship you want if you keep dating commitment-phobic men! You’ve got to find someone who shares your relationship goals; I cannot overemphasize that enough.
In fact, a key part of Dating With Power is having the courage to walk away from the wrong men and the wrong relationships. I know it isn’t easy, but it’s the only way you’ll ever get to experience the loving, lasting relationship you really want. After all, how can you ever stand a chance of meeting Mr. Right when you’re stuck in a relationship with Mr. Wrong?
Instead of wasting months and years of your life dating someone who will never commit his heart and soul to you, you’re better off cutting your losses and walking away so you can find someone who will love and adore you and want to make you his own.
So the next time you meet someone who’s not looking for anything serious, just tactfully and politely tell him GOODBYE and move on with your life!
Remember, you deserve to have a happy, fulfilling relationship that lasts a lifetime. But the only way you’ll ever get there is to find a partner who’s looking for the same thing.
I hope this blog post has empowered you to say goodbye to commitment-phobic men so you can find someone who DOES want to give you his full love and devotion. Please leave a comment below and let me know how this article has impacted you.
Also, if you have any family members or friends who are sick and tired of waiting for their partners to commit, please share this blog post with them. Hopefully, it’ll give them the incentive and inspiration they need to say goodbye and move on!
BELIEVE HIM
Take what he’s saying at face value. Don’t try to convince him to change his mind, or beg and plead for him to stay. That’ll only make you look desperate.
Because when a man says he doesn’t want to commit, he’s not going to commit, no matter how hard you might try to get him to feel otherwise. After all, if the tables were turned and YOU were the one who didn’t want to commit to him, I’m sure that no amount of convincing, begging, or pleading on his part would cause YOU to have a change of heart.
Also, don’t fool yourself into thinking that if you keep on dating him, having sex with him, and doing this or that for him, he’ll suddenly come to his senses and commit his heart and soul to you.
I’ve seen way too many women spend months and even years waiting for their boyfriends to commit, and you know what? It never happens! All they end up doing is wasting a lot of precious time in a relationship that goes nowhere. That’s why when a man tells you he doesn’t want to commit, please believe him!
Moreover, it’s important that you don’t make a man feel wrong for not wanting to commit to you. As tempting as it might be to lash out at him for feeling that way, it’ll only make things even worse. It’s not like after hearing your angry outburst, he’s going to just suddenly turn around and say “Oh honey, you’re absolutely right. We should get serious and have a future together.”
It would be nice if it worked that way, but unfortunately, it doesn’t! You see, he wants what he wants and you want what you want, and if the two of you both want completely different things from the relationship, then getting angry about it isn’t going to change a thing.
SAY GOODBYE
What you need to do instead is this: Simply look him in the eye, and then calmly but firmly tell him:
“You know John (or whatever your partner’s name is), I totally understand if you’re not looking for anything serious right now. But you see, I AM at a stage of my life where I am looking for something serious and long-term. Even though I really enjoy dating you, and it hurts me to say this, I think it would be best for us to just part company and go our own separate ways since we both apparently want completely different things from this relationship. That way, you can find someone who’s fine with dating you casually, and I can find someone who truly wants a long-term committed relationship. It’s been great knowing you and I wish you the best.”
MOVE ON
And with that, you say goodbye and move on. Once you bid him farewell, don’t reach out to him or try to get back together with him again. Make him realize that he can’t just have his cake and eat it. Because from now on, you’re not going to give him the privilege of dating you if he has no intention of committing to you.
Yes it might hurt to walk away. Yes, it might suck to be alone again. But you know what sucks even more is dating someone who will NEVER be able to give you the deep lasting love and commitment you desire.
What you must realize ladies, is that you’ll never get to have long-term committed relationship you want if you keep dating commitment-phobic men! You’ve got to find someone who shares your relationship goals; I cannot overemphasize that enough.
In fact, a key part of Dating With Power is having the courage to walk away from the wrong men and the wrong relationships. I know it isn’t easy, but it’s the only way you’ll ever get to experience the loving, lasting relationship you really want. After all, how can you ever stand a chance of meeting Mr. Right when you’re stuck in a relationship with Mr. Wrong?
Instead of wasting months and years of your life dating someone who will never commit his heart and soul to you, you’re better off cutting your losses and walking away so you can find someone who will love and adore you and want to make you his own.
So the next time you meet someone who’s not looking for anything serious, just tactfully and politely tell him GOODBYE and move on with your life!
Remember, you deserve to have a happy, fulfilling relationship that lasts a lifetime. But the only way you’ll ever get there is to find a partner who’s looking for the same thing.
I hope this blog post has empowered you to say goodbye to commitment-phobic men so you can find someone who DOES want to give you his full love and devotion. Please leave a comment below and let me know how this article has impacted you.
Also, if you have any family members or friends who are sick and tired of waiting for their partners to commit, please share this blog post with them. Hopefully, it’ll give them the incentive and inspiration they need to say goodbye and move on!