If, however, at the end of the date, he seems really enthusiastic and mentions getting together again, then it’s perfectly acceptable to send him a short email the next day. In your email, thank him again for the date and tell him that you enjoyed meeting and spending time with him. Make a little bit of small talk and then end your message. Don’t ask him out or mention anything about getting together again; that’s his job, not yours!
Most men really appreciate these short “thank you” emails. It’s a nice touch that makes them feel appreciated. If nothing else, it shows your date that you have good manners and etiquette.
Some dating experts advise against sending post-date thank you emails even if the date was fantastic. In their opinion, it’s best to just thank him in person at the end of the date and then wait and see if he ever follows up to ask you out again. With this strategy, you’re “testing” him to see if his interest in you is really genuine or if he was being insincere when he told you he wanted to see you again.
Which strategy is best? It all depends on what you’re comfortable doing. If you think that your date genuinely wants to see you again, and you want to send him a thank you email, then go ahead and do so. If, on the other hand, you’d rather wait for him to contact you again, that’s perfectly acceptable too. Always do what feels right for you.
If you’re torn between emailing him vs. not emailing him, then take a step back and ask yourself why you want to reach out to him in the first place. If it’s because you genuinely enjoyed his company and want to thank him for taking you out so nicely, then it’s fine to send him a brief email thanking him for the date. But if it’s because you’re insecure and afraid that you’ll never hear from him again unless you email him, then you should work on resolving your insecurities first before sending him any emails. Whenever you communicate with him (whether it’s via email, phone, or in person), it’s important that you come from a place of confidence, not fear. Only then will you truly capture his interest and attention.
I hope this article helped clear up any confusion you had about whether you should contact him after a date. Now I’d love to hear from you. Do you usually email your dates afterwards to thank them? Or do you just keep mum and wait for them to contact you again? Let me know which strategy you use and how it’s been working for you. Please place your thoughts and comments below.