Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that looks aren’t important because they are! In fact, chemistry and attraction are key ingredients in any romantic relationship. But in order for your relationship to succeed in the long run, there has to be much more than just great chemistry.
For many people, compatibility means having the same interests and hobbies as their partner. But real compatibility actually runs much deeper than that. Just because you and your date share similar tastes in movies, books, and restaurants doesn’t mean that you both feel the same way about key relationship issues such as: marriage/commitment, children, family, finances, religion/spirituality, and so on. When you and your partner are truly compatible, not only do you both enjoy similar types of activities, but you also have similar lifestyles, core values, and a shared vision of where your relationship is headed.
It’s therefore important to determine whether you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to these types of key relationship issues since they can easily make or break your relationship. And the sooner you find this out, the better!
The problem is that many women are afraid to bring up such “major” relationship issues with their partners because they don’t want to risk scaring them away. Because of this, they end up wasting a lot of time in relationships with men who are fundamentally incompatible with what they’re seeking in a long-term partner.
For example, I know of a woman who dated her boyfriend for 2 years before she realized that he didn’t want to get married and have kids. Looking back, she regrets not having talked to him sooner about marriage and kids rather than simply assuming that he had the same relationship goals as she did.
So how can you find out early on in your relationship whether you and your partner have compatible values and relationship goals without freaking him out and scaring him away?
The good news is, there IS a way to discuss sensitive, touchy-feely topics like marriage and commitment, kids, and money with your partner without making him want to run for the hills. I explain exactly how to do this in Chapter 17 (pages 48-54) of my eBook, The Single Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Online Dating World: How to Go From Online to Happily Ever After.
Click here or on the link below for more details so you can learn how to build a healthy, long-lasting relationship with a man whom you’re both attracted to AND compatible with.
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