“There must be something wrong with me.”
“I’m just not good enough for him.”
“I must be unattractive and unlovable since he didn’t want to go out with me.”
Now, while it’s understandable for you to feel this way, what you need to realize is that if a man rejects you, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that you’re an undesirable, unattractive woman. All it means is that you’re not what he’s looking for in a partner. Just as you’re not going to fall madly in love with every man you meet, every man you meet isn’t going to fall madly in love with you. It’s as plain and simple as that!
In many ways, rejection is a lot like trying to buy a new pair of jeans. Yeah, I know that sounds weird, but stay with me here. Suppose you go shopping, hoping to buy a new pair of jeans. You find a pair that looks great on the hanger. They’re the exact color, brand, and style you’re looking for. But when you try them on, they fit terribly! Maybe they’re too tight. Maybe they’re too loose. Maybe they’re too baggy in the hips. Maybe they’re too long or maybe they’re too short.
Whatever the case may be, they’re clearly not the right jeans for you. It doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with the jeans themselves; they just don’t fit you properly. That same pair of jeans might be a perfect fit for someone else, but not for you. Does this mean you’ll never be able to find another pair of jeans? Of course not! You just need to keep shopping around until you find another brand that’s a better fit for your stylish sexy body!
Similarly, if a man isn’t interested in you, it doesn’t mean you’re destined to be single forever. You just have to keep searching till you find someone who loves and appreciates all your wonderful qualities.
I know it’s easier said than done, but you mustn’t take rejection personally. Think about it this way: if a guy doesn’t accept and appreciate you for who you are, then why would you want to date someone like that anyway?!! You deserve to be with someone who cherishes the amazing, magnificent woman you are!
In next week's blog post, we'll focus on what to do if YOU'RE the one who has to do the rejecting. You'll learn a 3-step method for breaking up with someone in a way that's not overly harsh or hurtful. But in the meantime, I'd love to hear your thoughts and comments on today's blog post. Please free to place your comments below.