Is it his tender touch? His warmth and kindness? The way he patiently listens when you’re talking? The way he comforts you when you’re upset? The bouquet of flowers he surprised you with last night? The care package he brought you when you were sick? Whatever it is, tell him about it! Make a regular habit of loving and appreciating him every day.
2. Instead of focusing on your partner’s faults and shortcomings, focus on his positive traits and all the wonderful things he does for you. (And if he doesn’t bring anything positive to your relationship, then you’re with the wrong guy!). For instance, rather than focusing on how your partner always leaves the toilet seat up, focus on how nicely he takes you out on dates. Instead of criticizing him for leaving crumbs on the counter after eating, be appreciative of the fact that he cooked you dinner.
3. If a date or relationship doesn’t work out, look at it as a learning experience rather than a disaster.
In many ways, bad dates and relationships can teach us a lot about what we DON’T want in a partner. For example, if he got drunk on your date and acted like a jerk, then you know that next time around, you need to find someone who drinks more responsibly. If he was flaky and unreliable, then your next partner should be a man of his word with good integrity.
If you’re willing to the learn the lessons that your past relationships are trying to teach you, those valuable insights can help you determine what you need to do differently in order to create happier, more satisfying relationships in the future.
4. Be grateful for the good relationships you’ve had in the past.
If you’ve had at least one successful relationship in the past, then there’s no reason why you can’t have more of them in the future! Try to identify what factors made it so successful. Was it the way you could talk to him about anything and everything? Was it the way he made you feel safe and secure in your relationship with him? Was it the way he held you in his arms and showed you how much he cared about you? Determine what your relationship success factors are, and then seek them out in potential new partners.
5. If you go out with a guy and he turns out to be a jerk, be grateful you found this out before wasting any more of your precious time with him.
After all, who needs to keep someone who’s Mr. Wrong? Spend your time searching for the right guy instead!
6. Make a list of all your strengths and be grateful for each and every one of them. Look at this list every day to remind yourself of what an awesome, amazing person you are. Realize that men should feel lucky to be dating you because you have so much to offer them.
So now I’d love to hear from you. What specific things are you grateful for in your own love life? What resonated with you the most? Please share your thoughts and comments below. I’d love to hear what you think!