Now more than ever, we’re living in an increasingly negative world. This is especially true when it comes to dating. Every day we’re bombarded with all sorts of negative messages that weigh us down and destroy our faith in love. After all, how many times have you heard people say things like:
Men suck!
Relationships are a struggle.
All the good men are taken.
You’re more likely to get struck by lightning than find the love of your life.
I could go on and on here, but I think you get my point. With all the negative talk out there about men, dating, and relationships, it’s no wonder that so many people feel down in the dumps about their love lives! It’s like a huge dark cloud hanging over the dating world.
Luckily, there is a way to get out of this depressing dating funk. In this post, I’m going to teach you a method for transforming the way you think not just about love and dating, but also about life in general.
Men suck!
Relationships are a struggle.
All the good men are taken.
You’re more likely to get struck by lightning than find the love of your life.
I could go on and on here, but I think you get my point. With all the negative talk out there about men, dating, and relationships, it’s no wonder that so many people feel down in the dumps about their love lives! It’s like a huge dark cloud hanging over the dating world.
Luckily, there is a way to get out of this depressing dating funk. In this post, I’m going to teach you a method for transforming the way you think not just about love and dating, but also about life in general.
It all starts with adopting what Oprah Winfrey calls an “attitude of gratitude.” This means that you intentionally choose to focus on expressing gratitude for all the positive things in your life rather than complaining about all the negative stuff. It doesn’t mean that you dismiss or ignore what’s wrong, broken, or lacking in your life. Rather, it’s more about where you choose to direct your focus and attention. The world-renowned motivational speaker, Tony Robbins, has often said, “Where your focus goes, energy flows.” This actually makes perfect sense. After all, how do you feel when you’re laser-focused on all the negative aspects of your life? Pretty crappy, huh? Now try shifting your attention and focus onto something that brings you joy. Suddenly you feel a lot better, right?
Think about how much happier you’d feel if you made a regular habit of focusing on all that’s good in your life. This is exactly what adopting an attitude of gratitude is all about! I’ll be the first to admit, it’s easier said than done, but with practice, it will eventually become your default way of thinking.
How to make gratitude a daily ritual in your life
So how can you make gratitude a daily ritual in your life, especially when you’re so accustomed to focusing on the negative? Very easily! All you need to do is keep a gratitude journal in which you list all the things for which you’re grateful. Your gratitude journal can simply be a notebook or pad of paper; it doesn’t have to be anything fancy.
When you first begin your gratitude journal, try to write something in it every day. Really challenge yourself to come up with things you’re thankful for, both big and small. It doesn’t have to be anything major like successfully delivering a presentation to the CEO of your company. Rather, it can be simple, basic things like: having food on your plate for dinner, a comfortable house to live in, money to buy groceries with, a job that pays the bills, good health, clean air to breathe, friends and family who love and care for you, being able to read, being able to walk, getting to and from work safely, and so on.
As you can see, your list can go on and on. Thinking about gratitude in this way is often an eye-opening experience because it makes you realize that so many of the things you normally take for granted are things you should be grateful for.
Like anything else in life, maintaining an attitude of gratitude takes practice. The more you do it, the more it will become like second nature to you. After awhile, you’ll experience a greater sense of hope, joy, and well-being, as well as a renewed outlook on life, including your love life.
So the next time you find yourself focusing on the negative, stop and ask yourself: What can I be grateful for instead? You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel!
In my next blog post which you can read here, I’ll give you 6 ways to incorporate more gratitude into your love life. But in the interim, I’d love to hear from you. What are some of the things you’re most grateful for? Please share your thoughts and comments below.
Think about how much happier you’d feel if you made a regular habit of focusing on all that’s good in your life. This is exactly what adopting an attitude of gratitude is all about! I’ll be the first to admit, it’s easier said than done, but with practice, it will eventually become your default way of thinking.
How to make gratitude a daily ritual in your life
So how can you make gratitude a daily ritual in your life, especially when you’re so accustomed to focusing on the negative? Very easily! All you need to do is keep a gratitude journal in which you list all the things for which you’re grateful. Your gratitude journal can simply be a notebook or pad of paper; it doesn’t have to be anything fancy.
When you first begin your gratitude journal, try to write something in it every day. Really challenge yourself to come up with things you’re thankful for, both big and small. It doesn’t have to be anything major like successfully delivering a presentation to the CEO of your company. Rather, it can be simple, basic things like: having food on your plate for dinner, a comfortable house to live in, money to buy groceries with, a job that pays the bills, good health, clean air to breathe, friends and family who love and care for you, being able to read, being able to walk, getting to and from work safely, and so on.
As you can see, your list can go on and on. Thinking about gratitude in this way is often an eye-opening experience because it makes you realize that so many of the things you normally take for granted are things you should be grateful for.
Like anything else in life, maintaining an attitude of gratitude takes practice. The more you do it, the more it will become like second nature to you. After awhile, you’ll experience a greater sense of hope, joy, and well-being, as well as a renewed outlook on life, including your love life.
So the next time you find yourself focusing on the negative, stop and ask yourself: What can I be grateful for instead? You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel!
In my next blog post which you can read here, I’ll give you 6 ways to incorporate more gratitude into your love life. But in the interim, I’d love to hear from you. What are some of the things you’re most grateful for? Please share your thoughts and comments below.
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