1. He cheated on you
This one is clearly a no-brainer. If he cheated on you, then there’s only one thing left for you to do: DUMP HIM! Set yourself free so you can find a man who truly loves and cherishes you. You deserve a man who wants to be romantically involved with only one person: YOU!
2. He suffers from addictions
If your boyfriend suffers from addictions to alcohol and/or drugs, please do yourself a huge favor and walk away.You deserve to be someone’s girlfriend, not his substance abuse counselor!
3. He’s predictably unpredictable
Does he frequently run hot and cold? Are you constantly walking on eggshells when you’re around him because you never know how he’s going to react? Do you feel like you never really know where you stand in your relationship, even if you’ve been dating him for a long time? Does he often make you feel anxious and insecure? If you answered YES to any of these questions, then it’s time to cut the cord on your relationship. Your boyfriend should make you feel comfortable and secure, not like a basket case!
4. Incompatible core values
You want kids but he doesn’t. He’s a saver but you’re a lavish spender. You’re close to your family but he hasn’t seen or spoken to his in over a year. Incompatible values lead to irreconcilable differences that can potentially tear you and your partner apart.
5. Incompatible relationship goals
If you want a serious relationship but he doesn’t, then move onto someone else who shares your relationship goals. I don’t care how great the chemistry or sex is – if a man doesn’t want to commit, then all the sex in the world isn’t going to change his mind! Don’t waste your time dating emotionally unavailable men; life’s too short for that!
6. He can’t be counted on
Does he say one thing and do the opposite? A man can say he’s going to call you, be there for you, etc., but if his actions are inconsistent with his words, then what good is he?? As the old saying goes, actions speak louder than words! If your man repeatedly demonstrates that he’s unreliable and cannot be counted on, then he’s not worth dating!
7. He lives irresponsibly
If you’re looking to settle down and get married, you need to find someone who lives his life in a responsible manner. If he spends most of his free time partying and getting drunk with his buddies, would you really want to settle down with someone like that? Or if he’s fiscally irresponsible, in debt over his head, and can’t manage to pay his bills on time, would you really want to spend the rest of your life bailing him out of his financial troubles? I know I wouldn’t!
8. There are red flags
If you notice any red flags, i.e. warning signs that your partner isn’t the right person for you, then please heed them and get out while you can. Ignoring red flags was the main reason why so many of my previous relationships failed. One of the biggest and hardest lessons I’ve learned is that RED FLAGS DON’T TURN GREEN. In other words, they don’t just suddenly vanish and go away on their own. Even if a particular red flag/ deal breaker is not causing any problems in your relationship right now, I guarantee it will as time goes on and your relationship progresses. Believe me, I speak from experience! If he’s the wrong person for you now, he’ll continue to be wrong for you later!
9. He’s a poor communicator
Good communication is essential if you wish to have a happy, successful relationship. However, it’s a two-way street. This means that BOTH of you need to communicate your needs and feelings openly and honestly to each other. After all, you are not a mind-reader and neither is your partner! If he’s unwilling to express his feelings, needs, intentions, and goals, that’s a HUGE warning sign. Or if he refuses to open up to you, then you’re better off without him. After all, who needs to be around someone who keeps everything locked up inside? Your relationship should not be a guessing game!
10. He treats you like crap
If your partner is repeatedly rude, arrogant, or disrespectful towards you, please dump him ASAP! Life is way too short to waste your precious time and energy on someone who doesn’t care about you! I don’t care how good looking or wealthy he is, or what an amazing lover he is! If your partner consistently treats you like crap, then there are only two words you need to say to him: GOOD BYE!! Cut him loose so you’ll be free to find a man who will treat you with the kindness and respect you deserve.
So if you notice any of these signs in your relationship, there's only one thing to do: RUN!